5. The framework for negotiating meta-frame flexibility is important for effective communication. By avoiding the resistance of others, others are involved in what is said and leave them open to new ideas. Avoiding negations such as “but” and “however” in communication helps greatly to eliminate the resistance of others. The framework allows you to discuss with other different points of view without creating resistance in others or jeopardizing your values and beliefs. Obviously people don`t like that you don`t agree with them, so the “trick” here first agrees, then you use “and” – then give your opinion or your point of view. During this process, you must be sincere in your approach and know that you should not say that you appreciate, respect or agree with what they say if you do not. Your words must be carefully chosen. Our goal is always to look for ways to build and deepen a relationship. Disagreement with people usually has the opposite effect. The treaty framework is a way to build a relationship by finding creative ways to get along with people whenever possible. It`s worth adding that “but” is worth using if that`s really what you mean. When I was in command of the Richmond NLP Group, I invited a well-known NLP coach to do an evening for us.
He said, “I would love that, and I work in London that day.” In the second example, B uses one of the aforementioned framework forms – I agree with…….. And…….. It is usually best to refrain from using “I understand” because it is far too easy for the other person to challenge. “No, you don`t, how did you understand what I went through?” Misused, it can also come as condescending. 4. Use the meta-level results of both parties, To create an even higher meta-frame In a commercial or professional context, the framework of the agreement adopts one or more of the following form combinations: And even Benjamin Franklin liked the framework of the contract: the last element of the framework agreement passes to lead the person with whom we communicate towards the result we desire , that is. B could have elegantly gotten his result – go home – so that A felt more comfortable by simply wrapping a contract framework around his disagreement, as in the following example: – 2. Identify the general topics or elements of the two frames “But” is not the only word that has this effect, although it is the most abrupt. However, it`s just a little softer than “but” — it has almost as much crumbling effect on every statement that precedes it. “Although” is still a little softer, but could still turn its back on people. Just in passing, here`s what`s not to say if the application of the framework of the agreement: Using the framework of the agreement, you avoid the use of words such as “but,” “again” or “but,” which deny what the person just said. They will deny everything that has been said in advance and prevent the transition to a contractual framework.
Instead, use “and” or “also” that brings the two statements together. Normally, when people do not agree with someone, they use the word “but” to convey their own point of view. “But” has the effect of denying or erasing the inner representation of what was said before him, even if this inner representation is highly positive – as in the case of “I love you, but… The framework of the treaty takes one of the following forms:- In addition, if you miss a small detail or misunderstand what the person meant, even if it does not matter to his main point, they can use it to show in their own minds that you do not understand it at all.